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A woman in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something that clearly struck a nerve. She wanted to know why inactive men, with no intention of becoming active, keep reaching out to her when her profile explicitly states she's looking for active LDS members. The frustration
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Have you ever sat in a chapel pew, supposed to feel peace, while a silent fire alarm of perfectionism blares in your head? You are not alone, and it is not unworthiness.
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A post appeared in the LDS Dating Midsingles group this week that cut straight to the bone. A man asked, essentially, how long a spouse has to withhold sex before it becomes acceptable to seek "alternative avenues." The post gathered 93 comments in a matter of hours. The
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Repentance itself doesn't break people. But when the prescribed process, the one meant to restore someone, instead convinces them more deeply than before that they are fundamentally unfit for the grace of God and the fellowship of those who follow him, that process is the problem.
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A reflective conversation about how cultures of worthiness can become private perfectionism — and how to reclaim belonging without performing for approval.
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Ever met a great guy and realized you don't want a date, you just want a nap? You aren't broken. If romance feels like adding one more chore to your endless to-do list, pay attention: exhaustion is information. Here is why you are allowed to go slower than the chemistry.
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An anonymous Facebook post about dating exhaustion recently turned into a vicious moral purity spiral. What happened in that thread wasn't an anomaly. It was a perfect, real-time demonstration of Worthiness Culture... and data shows is hemorrhaging the church's most devoted members.
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Wild rats swim for 15 minutes before they give up. Rescued rats swim for 60 HOURS. You're not broken. You just haven't been rescued yet. 🐀
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You stopped praying because it felt like a lie. Science says that was the most expensive thing you gave up. You didn't have to lose it. 🙏
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It didn't start in your marriage or end with your divorce. You're not bad at relationships. You're running a contract nobody agreed to — and wondering why nobody shows up to pay.
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94% of people who left the LDS church didn't want to leave. They tried for years to stay. If that surprises you, you've been living inside the wrong story — and it's costing you more than you know.
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Good Job. Temple Recommend. Emotionally Mature. As a collective entry requirement for a first conversation, it functions as a job posting. And men who don't think they'll get the job don't apply.