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A researcher studied why women are so hard on each other. Then we thought about your ward. The findings are uncomfortable, familiar, and worth every word.
Religious Trauma
What if the pressure to remarry quickly after divorce is the same operating system that produced the wrong marriage in the first place?
Religious Trauma
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.
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By Lisa* (*not her real name) I read the article on this site about marriage and commitment (The Checkbox and the Covenant) twice. The first time I read it as someone who has lived the exact tensions it describes. The second time I read it as someone who thinks the
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A woman I know recently went on a date with a man who, somewhere between the appetizers and the entrée, made her an offer. "Look," he said, "at our age we'll keep our finances separate anyway. So if it doesn't work out, no
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There is a version of this story that plays out quietly, without drama, in thousands of LDS homes. No affairs. No cruelty. No villain. Just two young people who got married because everyone around them made it feel like the only reasonable next step, and who then spent the next
Faith & Dating
Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 4 of 6 I want to say something that men in this situation almost never say. I wasn't ready. Not for what she needed. Not for what she was asking. Not for the thing she had every right to
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 5 of 6 A woman in an online discussion about LDS singles dating put it simply and perfectly: "I think a big problem here is tyranny of choice. I have dated so many men that broke up or didn'
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You don't have to choose between your spiritual roots and your desire for a full, authentic life. Here's how to hold both.
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Leading research on self-authorization and sexual wholeness offers a powerful framework for women who were taught that their desires were dangerous. Here's how to apply it.
Podcast
Episode Metadata Episode: 02 Description: Even when circumstances were beyond our control, why do we feel that we could have or should have done something differently? Host: Christopher Roberts Guest: Duration: 41 minutes Spotify: YouTube: Apple: Show Notes