Rediscovering who you are after divorce
Attachment & Healing
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
Religious Trauma
What if the pressure to remarry quickly after divorce is the same operating system that produced the wrong marriage in the first place?
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A post landed in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group a few days ago. The original poster admitted upfront he had just reposted it from somewhere else to see how the LDS community would react. The premise was simple: what do you call a man who is handsome, smart,
Religious Trauma
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.
Dating Skills
A post in the LDS Dating — Midsingles Facebook group earlier this month asked a simple question: "Can we, or should we, pursue relationships with those who have opposing political or religious beliefs?" 39 people reacted. 348 people commented. That ratio tells you something. When a post gets 10
Attachment & Healing
On March 26th, someone posted a poll in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group. 4 options. Simple question. "When you hear 'I'm not sure I want to get married again,' what do you assume it means?" Option A: Keeping options open. Option B: Doesn&
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A post in the LDS Dating Midsingles group last week lit up the feed in a way that felt very familiar. A woman posted a pointed, plainly worded question: why are so many men hitting 40 still choosing their mothers over a potential wife? She cited scripture. She named the
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Scott Turing and Laurie Pascal, Unchaperoned Life We've been reading the LDS Dating - Midsingles group for a while now. Thirty-five thousand members. Hundreds of posts every month. Thousands of comments. Posts about what men want. Posts about who should text first. Posts about shallow dating pools and
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Scott Turing and Laurie Pascal, Unchaperoned Life A few weeks ago, someone in an LDS midsingles group asked a deceptively simple question: "What lessons have you learned from your dating life?" The post got 198 comments—nearly 200 people lining up to share what years of dating, disappointment,
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Someone posted four words on a brown background in a midsingles Facebook group last week. What's worse than living alone? Two hundred and seventy-four people answered. And honestly? The responses were more honest than most Sunday School lessons combined. There was the woman who said she slept soundly
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 1 of 6 I was five years old when I learned I was trash. Not metaphorically. Not as a passing frustration someone immediately walked back. I was told I deserved to be thrown away — and to make the lesson stick, I
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 2 of 6 She was everything the church ever told me to look for. Faithful. Devoted. A mother who clearly adored her kids. A woman whose social media feed — over six years of staying loosely in touch — told a consistent story