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Good Job. Temple Recommend. Emotionally Mature. As a collective entry requirement for a first conversation, it functions as a job posting. And men who don't think they'll get the job don't apply.
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Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series A Practical Guide for the FA, DA, and the People Who Love Them This is Part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 covers the three attachment styles underneath FOMO, why the apps make everything worse, and what the research says
Attachment & Healing
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
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A researcher studied why women are so hard on each other. Then we thought about your ward. The findings are uncomfortable, familiar, and worth every word.
Religious Trauma
What if the pressure to remarry quickly after divorce is the same operating system that produced the wrong marriage in the first place?
Religious Trauma
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 1 of 6 I was five years old when I learned I was trash. Not metaphorically. Not as a passing frustration someone immediately walked back. I was told I deserved to be thrown away — and to make the lesson stick, I