A woman in the GenX Singles group on Facebook posted a simple, direct question: "Ladies, what is your biggest turn off during initial communications with men?" She answered it herself first. Bring up sex right out the gate. That was it. The question got 228 reactions and 471
Scott & Laurie Weigh In: Everyone was presenting evidence. Nobody was actually listening.
A post went up in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group earlier this week with a simple prompt: "Things men find unattractive in women. Men speak out, we are listening." Within days it had generated nearly 200 comments and close to 600 reactions. The thread became a sprawling,
A post appeared in LDS Dating - Midsingles last week that generated over 330 comments and nearly a thousand reactions. The original poster wanted to talk about health and attraction. He opened by acknowledging that "we cannot have an honest conversation about attraction on here without fighting," then
A woman in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something that clearly struck a nerve. She wanted to know why inactive men, with no intention of becoming active, keep reaching out to her when her profile explicitly states she's looking for active LDS members. The frustration
When a community ties belonging and spiritual safety to sexual compliance, and enforces it through recurring interviews and confession norms, it reliably creates fear-based self-policing. That's not just 'values.' That's behavioral control.
Have you ever sat in a chapel pew, supposed to feel peace, while a silent fire alarm of perfectionism blares in your head? You are not alone, and it is not unworthiness.
A post appeared in the LDS Dating Midsingles group this week that cut straight to the bone. A man asked, essentially, how long a spouse has to withhold sex before it becomes acceptable to seek "alternative avenues." The post gathered 93 comments in a matter of hours. The
Someone in an LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted a question recently — framed, as these things often are, as "asking for a friend." The question: would a non-Barbie figure be a deal-breaker for men in the group? Nearly 200 comments arrived before anyone could catch their breath.
Repentance itself doesn't break people. But when the prescribed process, the one meant to restore someone, instead convinces them more deeply than before that they are fundamentally unfit for the grace of God and the fellowship of those who follow him, that process is the problem.
A reflective conversation about how cultures of worthiness can become private perfectionism — and how to reclaim belonging without performing for approval.
Ever met a great guy and realized you don't want a date, you just want a nap? You aren't broken. If romance feels like adding one more chore to your endless to-do list, pay attention: exhaustion is information. Here is why you are allowed to go slower than the chemistry.