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When a community ties belonging and spiritual safety to sexual compliance, and enforces it through recurring interviews and confession norms, it reliably creates fear-based self-policing. That's not just 'values.' That's behavioral control.
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Have you ever sat in a chapel pew, supposed to feel peace, while a silent fire alarm of perfectionism blares in your head? You are not alone, and it is not unworthiness.
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A reflective conversation about how cultures of worthiness can become private perfectionism — and how to reclaim belonging without performing for approval.
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An anonymous Facebook post about dating exhaustion recently turned into a vicious moral purity spiral. What happened in that thread wasn't an anomaly. It was a perfect, real-time demonstration of Worthiness Culture... and data shows is hemorrhaging the church's most devoted members.
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There is a version of this story that plays out quietly, without drama, in thousands of LDS homes. No affairs. No cruelty. No villain. Just two young people who got married because everyone around them made it feel like the only reasonable next step, and who then spent the next