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Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series A Practical Guide for the FA, DA, and the People Who Love Them This is Part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 covers the three attachment styles underneath FOMO, why the apps make everything worse, and what the research says
Attachment & Healing
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
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A researcher studied why women are so hard on each other. Then we thought about your ward. The findings are uncomfortable, familiar, and worth every word.
Religious Trauma
What if the pressure to remarry quickly after divorce is the same operating system that produced the wrong marriage in the first place?
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A post landed in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group a few days ago. The original poster admitted upfront he had just reposted it from somewhere else to see how the LDS community would react. The premise was simple: what do you call a man who is handsome, smart,
Religious Trauma
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.
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A man in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something last week that generated 339 comments and 138 reactions. The post itself was reasonable enough. He noticed that men in the current dating market seem reluctant to ask women out, wondered if the cost of dating was part
Dating Skills
A post in the LDS Dating — Midsingles Facebook group earlier this month asked a simple question: "Can we, or should we, pursue relationships with those who have opposing political or religious beliefs?" 39 people reacted. 348 people commented. That ratio tells you something. When a post gets 10
Dating Skills
How a Facebook Comment War About Prenups Led to the Best Conversation I've Ever Had About Love Stay with me. Claire* (*not her real name) and I had ended things — or tried to. The kind of ending that doesn't quite end, where you've agreed
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By Lisa* (*not her real name) I read the article on this site about marriage and commitment (The Checkbox and the Covenant) twice. The first time I read it as someone who has lived the exact tensions it describes. The second time I read it as someone who thinks the
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A woman I know recently went on a date with a man who, somewhere between the appetizers and the entrée, made her an offer. "Look," he said, "at our age we'll keep our finances separate anyway. So if it doesn't work out, no
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A woman in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted a meme last week that stopped the scroll for 359 people and pulled 65 comments out of a community. The image read: "There are people who had just one date, fell in love, and got married. Then there&