Understanding your attachment style and healing patterns
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A post went up in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group earlier this week with a simple prompt: "Things men find unattractive in women. Men speak out, we are listening." Within days it had generated nearly 200 comments and close to 600 reactions. The thread became a sprawling,
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You've told the story of what they did 10,000 times. Research shows every single retelling makes the grip tighter. The person you can't stop thinking about might actually be you. 👀
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A post dropped recently in the LDS Dating — Midsingles group on Facebook that lit up the comments like a testimony meeting in July. The author wrote, simply and directly, that the dating world isn't talking enough about accountability. "Healthy connection requires two people who can say, '
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Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series A Practical Guide for the FA, DA, and the People Who Love Them This is Part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 covers the three attachment styles underneath FOMO, why the apps make everything worse, and what the research says
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Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
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A post landed in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group a few days ago. The original poster admitted upfront he had just reposted it from somewhere else to see how the LDS community would react. The premise was simple: what do you call a man who is handsome, smart,
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On March 26th, someone posted a poll in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group. 4 options. Simple question. "When you hear 'I'm not sure I want to get married again,' what do you assume it means?" Option A: Keeping options open. Option B: Doesn&
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Scott Turing and Laurie Pascal, Unchaperoned Life In March 2026, someone in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group asked members to describe their current dating life using an 80s song title. The post got 361 reactions and 360 comments. It was the single most engaged post of the entire month
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 3 of 6 She stopped letting him hug her. Not because she didn't want to be held. She was desperate to be held. But every hug had become a down payment on something she hadn't agreed to
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 4 of 6 I want to say something that men in this situation almost never say. I wasn't ready. Not for what she needed. Not for what she was asking. Not for the thing she had every right to
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 5 of 6 A woman in an online discussion about LDS singles dating put it simply and perfectly: "I think a big problem here is tyranny of choice. I have dated so many men that broke up or didn'
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 6 of 6 The most intimate moment of my post-divorce life wasn't a vacation. It wasn't a candlelit dinner or a grand gesture or any of the things we're trained to think of when we