Articles, insights, and stories for mid-life singles
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How a Facebook Comment War About Prenups Led to the Best Conversation I've Ever Had About Love Stay with me. Claire* (*not her real name) and I had ended things — or tried to. The kind of ending that doesn't quite end, where you've agreed
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By Lisa* (*not her real name) I read the article on this site about marriage and commitment (The Checkbox and the Covenant) twice. The first time I read it as someone who has lived the exact tensions it describes. The second time I read it as someone who thinks the
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A woman I know recently went on a date with a man who, somewhere between the appetizers and the entrée, made her an offer. "Look," he said, "at our age we'll keep our finances separate anyway. So if it doesn't work out, no
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There is a version of this story that plays out quietly, without drama, in thousands of LDS homes. No affairs. No cruelty. No villain. Just two young people who got married because everyone around them made it feel like the only reasonable next step, and who then spent the next
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There's a moment that happens on a lot of first dates that nobody talks about. Two reasonably decent humans sit across from each other. Both are a little nervous. Both are secretly hoping this one might be different. Both are also — if they're honest — waiting for
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 1 of 6 I was five years old when I learned I was trash. Not metaphorically. Not as a passing frustration someone immediately walked back. I was told I deserved to be thrown away — and to make the lesson stick, I
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 2 of 6 She was everything the church ever told me to look for. Faithful. Devoted. A mother who clearly adored her kids. A woman whose social media feed — over six years of staying loosely in touch — told a consistent story
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 3 of 6 She stopped letting him hug her. Not because she didn't want to be held. She was desperate to be held. But every hug had become a down payment on something she hadn't agreed to
Faith & Dating
Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 4 of 6 I want to say something that men in this situation almost never say. I wasn't ready. Not for what she needed. Not for what she was asking. Not for the thing she had every right to
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 5 of 6 A woman in an online discussion about LDS singles dating put it simply and perfectly: "I think a big problem here is tyranny of choice. I have dated so many men that broke up or didn'
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Impact of Religious Trauma Series: The Unchaperoned Life | Post 6 of 6 The most intimate moment of my post-divorce life wasn't a vacation. It wasn't a candlelit dinner or a grand gesture or any of the things we're trained to think of when we
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If you’re a divorced midlife single, you already know something your younger self didn’t: love can be real… and life can still change. That’s why we’re going to say the quiet part out loud: A prenup isn’t planning for divorce. It’s planning to be