Your Partner Is Not the Enemy. Your Unplanned Relationship Might Be.
A new conversation with couples therapist Dr. Stan Tatkin explains why unrepaired moments make partners feel like enemies—and what intentional midlife daters can build instead.
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Date Their Tuesday, Not Their Highlight Reel
Chris Williamson and Mark Manson make the case for evaluating a partner’s ordinary life—their habits, stress response, values, and everyday kindness—before you commit.
Why a Man Disappears When You Want to Talk About the Relationship
Why relationship conversations can trigger defensiveness or withdrawal in many men, and how a shame-and-connection framework opens a more honest path back.
A Girl’s Body Is Not a Discipline Problem
A woman in the group told a story from when she was seventeen. She had followed every clothing rule she understood. She was covered from neck to ankle. Her outfit accommodated garments. Her skirt happened to fit the body she had. A bishopric member in his sixties told her parents
The Relationship Does Not Break All at Once. It Runs Out of Granola First.
Most relationships do not end in one dramatic moment. They lose connection through the quiet disappearance of small acts of attention, repair, and everyday care.
The Date Is Not the Prize
A post in a mid-singles group asked people to share their best photo and find someone to take on a date within two weeks. That was it. No long discourse about modern dating. No grievance. No twelve-part framework for becoming irresistible by Thursday. More than five hundred comments later, the
The Passport Isn’t the Problem
International love can be beautiful. The question is whether both people can choose freely, keep their dignity, and build a partnership that makes neither person smaller.
The Great Disconnect: Why the Traditional Marriage Bargain Failed
Sam and Alex examine the strains inside modern relationships—and the understandable reluctance to date or remarry after faith-based divorce—through the lenses of labor, conflict, gratitude, and identity.
What If Dating Is Not Broken? What If It Is Doing Exactly What We Built It to Do?
What if the problem is not that there are no good men or women left? What if the problem is that modern dating has quietly trained us to reject real people before we ever get the chance to know them? And what if the thing we blame most, dating apps,
The Question Quietly Keeping Mid-Life Singles From Love Again
Editor’s note: This regular editorial article takes inspiration from Kait Willett’s YouTube video, “Divorce: Why the System is Failing Men[1].” It examines the wider cultural messages that can make mid-life singles wary of forming a new committed relationship. It does not offer legal, mental-health, or domestic-violence advice.
The Etiquette of the Block
You don't owe an explanation to someone who is making you feel unsafe. Scott and Laurie break down the difference between ghosting and guarding your perimeter.
Men Are More Romantic Than Women. Science Says So.
*Based on the Modern Wisdom podcast episode "The Truth About Sex Differences That Gets Scientists In Trouble" with Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams, evolutionary psychologist and author of A Billion Years of Sex Differences. Published July 2026. Watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=roXX9iuPQIA*
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Bone-Tired, Guarded, and Still Hopeful: What One Question Revealed About LDS Dating Right Now
We asked a group of mid-singles to describe their dating lives in one word. The answers broke our hearts — and revealed something important about what it actually costs to keep showing up.
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The Mirror You Keep Refusing to Look At
A post went up recently in the LDS Dating Midsingles group on Facebook that pulled 40 reactions and 105 comments in the first 2 hours. It was posted anonymously, which, honestly, tracks. The man who wrote it spent several paragraphs cataloguing his credentials: the 60 pounds he has lost, the
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Why Are LDS Men Not Choosing LDS Women? (And Why That Question Is Only Half the Story)
A post in the "LDS Mid Singles, Authentic and Imperfect" Facebook group recently cracked open a very old wound. Someone asked the question that has been circulating in midlife LDS singles spaces for years: why are LDS men not choosing LDS women? The thread that followed was long,
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The Loophole Is Not the Same Thing as Integrity
A woman posted anonymously in the LDS Dating Midsingles Facebook group on June 9th and asked something that apparently a lot of people have been thinking but not saying out loud. She had noticed a pattern: some LDS men seem to move the goalposts on physical boundaries whenever it'
Scott & Laurie
The Red Flag Question That Revealed More About the Men Than the Women
A man in the LDS Dating Midsingles Facebook group posted a question last month that generated 440 comments, 43 reactions, and no small amount of chaos. The question, accompanied by a graphic, was simple enough: "What is an instant red flag in a woman, no matter how pretty she
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The Most Important First-Date Question Is Not "Are You Married?"
Someone in the LDS Dating Midsingles group posted a simple prompt recently: "What is the most important question to ask on a first date?" It came with a cheerful graphic of a couple at a table. The post collected 244 comments. The thread did not go the direction
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Men, The Interview Is Over: What Midlife Women Are Actually Telling You
A woman in the GenX Singles group on Facebook posted a simple, direct question: "Ladies, what is your biggest turn off during initial communications with men?" She answered it herself first. Bring up sex right out the gate. That was it. The question got 228 reactions and 471
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When the Thread Turns Into a Warzone (And Nobody Wins)
Scott & Laurie Weigh In: Everyone was presenting evidence. Nobody was actually listening.
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When Men Say They Want Peace, What Do Women Hear?
A post went up in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group earlier this week with a simple prompt: "Things men find unattractive in women. Men speak out, we are listening." Within days it had generated nearly 200 comments and close to 600 reactions. The thread became a sprawling,
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When "Honesty" Becomes the Cruelest Thing in the Room
A post appeared in LDS Dating - Midsingles last week that generated over 330 comments and nearly a thousand reactions. The original poster wanted to talk about health and attraction. He opened by acknowledging that "we cannot have an honest conversation about attraction on here without fighting," then
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When "Active" Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means
A woman in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something that clearly struck a nerve. She wanted to know why inactive men, with no intention of becoming active, keep reaching out to her when her profile explicitly states she's looking for active LDS members. The frustration
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When the Sacred Becomes a Checkpoint: The Architecture of Religious Sexual Control
When a community ties belonging and spiritual safety to sexual compliance, and enforces it through recurring interviews and confession norms, it reliably creates fear-based self-policing. That's not just 'values.' That's behavioral control.