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A post landed in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group a few days ago. The original poster admitted upfront he had just reposted it from somewhere else to see how the LDS community would react. The premise was simple: what do you call a man who is handsome, smart,
Religious Trauma
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.
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A man in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something last week that generated 339 comments and 138 reactions. The post itself was reasonable enough. He noticed that men in the current dating market seem reluctant to ask women out, wondered if the cost of dating was part
Dating Skills
A post in the LDS Dating — Midsingles Facebook group earlier this month asked a simple question: "Can we, or should we, pursue relationships with those who have opposing political or religious beliefs?" 39 people reacted. 348 people commented. That ratio tells you something. When a post gets 10
Dating Skills
How a Facebook Comment War About Prenups Led to the Best Conversation I've Ever Had About Love Stay with me. Claire* (*not her real name) and I had ended things — or tried to. The kind of ending that doesn't quite end, where you've agreed
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By Lisa* (*not her real name) I read the article on this site about marriage and commitment (The Checkbox and the Covenant) twice. The first time I read it as someone who has lived the exact tensions it describes. The second time I read it as someone who thinks the
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A woman I know recently went on a date with a man who, somewhere between the appetizers and the entrée, made her an offer. "Look," he said, "at our age we'll keep our finances separate anyway. So if it doesn't work out, no
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A woman in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted a meme last week that stopped the scroll for 359 people and pulled 65 comments out of a community. The image read: "There are people who had just one date, fell in love, and got married. Then there&
Attachment & Healing
On March 26th, someone posted a poll in the LDS Dating - Midsingles group. 4 options. Simple question. "When you hear 'I'm not sure I want to get married again,' what do you assume it means?" Option A: Keeping options open. Option B: Doesn&
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A post in the LDS Dating Midsingles group last week lit up the feed in a way that felt very familiar. A woman posted a pointed, plainly worded question: why are so many men hitting 40 still choosing their mothers over a potential wife? She cited scripture. She named the
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There is a version of this story that plays out quietly, without drama, in thousands of LDS homes. No affairs. No cruelty. No villain. Just two young people who got married because everyone around them made it feel like the only reasonable next step, and who then spent the next
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Scott Turing and Laurie Pascal, Unchaperoned Life We've been reading the LDS Dating - Midsingles group for a while now. Thirty-five thousand members. Hundreds of posts every month. Thousands of comments. Posts about what men want. Posts about who should text first. Posts about shallow dating pools and