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WCS Post 1: 94% of Them Didn't Want to Leave
94% of people who left the LDS church didn't want to leave. They tried for years to stay. If that surprises you, you've been living inside the wrong story — and it's costing you more than you know.
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April 23, 2026: She Said She Needs to Lower Her Standards. She's Not Entirely Wrong.
Good Job. Temple Recommend. Emotionally Mature. As a collective entry requirement for a first conversation, it functions as a job posting. And men who don't think they'll get the job don't apply.
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April 19, 2026: Your Glamour Shot Is Lying For You. And Everyone Knows It.
She hated dating apps. Got on anyway. Posted her worst photo. Got the most responses of her life. Turns out your glamour shot isn't attracting the right people — it's just scaring away the real ones."
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April 18, 2026: Is It a Spark Problem, or a You Problem?
An anonymous man posted to the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group this week and the thread exploded into 135 comments. He had been dating a woman for over a year. She is kind, faithful, deeply in love with him, and by his own description, pretty. They are engaged. The
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April 14, 2026: "I Didn't Mean To" Is Not an Apology. Let's Talk About That.
A post dropped recently in the LDS Dating — Midsingles group on Facebook that lit up the comments like a testimony meeting in July. The author wrote, simply and directly, that the dating world isn't talking enough about accountability. "Healthy connection requires two people who can say, '
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We Asked. You Were Brutally Honest. Here's What You Said.
We are creating our first cohort of midlife singles for our "Second Spring" program. Thoughtful. Serious. Fun. 8 weeks. Midlife singles who are actually doing the work and finding connection. Apply now.
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WWCC Part 2: You Know Why You Can't Commit. Now What?
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series A Practical Guide for the FA, DA, and the People Who Love Them This is Part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 covers the three attachment styles underneath FOMO, why the apps make everything worse, and what the research says
Attachment & Healing
WWCC Part 1: Who Is Actually Left on the Apps, and Why It Matters More Than You Think
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
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April 12, 2026: A Scientist Explained Why Women Are So Hard on Each Other. Then We Thought About Your Ward.
A researcher studied why women are so hard on each other. Then we thought about your ward. The findings are uncomfortable, familiar, and worth every word.
Religious Trauma
Four Signatures
What if the pressure to remarry quickly after divorce is the same operating system that produced the wrong marriage in the first place?
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April 8, 2026: "A Unicorn." "A Myth." "A Fairy Tale." So Why Are 249 People Arguing About Who Does the Dishes?
A post landed in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group a few days ago. The original poster admitted upfront he had just reposted it from somewhere else to see how the LDS community would react. The premise was simple: what do you call a man who is handsome, smart,
Religious Trauma
Part 7: The Ghost in the Nervous System: How Worthiness Culture Hinders Connection
A worthiness interview doesn't ask 'what did you do?' It asks 'are you the kind of person who belongs here?' In this high-stakes system, shame, not guilt, is created, which frequently leads to concealment, not repentance. Performance over authenticity becomes the only rational response.