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The Etiquette of the Block
You don't owe an explanation to someone who is making you feel unsafe. Scott and Laurie break down the difference between ghosting and guarding your perimeter.
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Practical dating advice for mid-life singles
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Men Are More Romantic Than Women. Science Says So.
*Based on the Modern Wisdom podcast episode "The Truth About Sex Differences That Gets Scientists In Trouble" with Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams, evolutionary psychologist and author of A Billion Years of Sex Differences. Published July 2026. Watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=roXX9iuPQIA*
Scott & Laurie
The Red Flag Question That Revealed More About the Men Than the Women
A man in the LDS Dating Midsingles Facebook group posted a question last month that generated 440 comments, 43 reactions, and no small amount of chaos. The question, accompanied by a graphic, was simple enough: "What is an instant red flag in a woman, no matter how pretty she
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The Most Important First-Date Question Is Not "Are You Married?"
Someone in the LDS Dating Midsingles group posted a simple prompt recently: "What is the most important question to ask on a first date?" It came with a cheerful graphic of a couple at a table. The post collected 244 comments. The thread did not go the direction
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When "Honesty" Becomes the Cruelest Thing in the Room
A post appeared in LDS Dating - Midsingles last week that generated over 330 comments and nearly a thousand reactions. The original poster wanted to talk about health and attraction. He opened by acknowledging that "we cannot have an honest conversation about attraction on here without fighting," then
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April 19, 2026: Your Glamour Shot Is Lying For You. And Everyone Knows It.
She hated dating apps. Got on anyway. Posted her worst photo. Got the most responses of her life. Turns out your glamour shot isn't attracting the right people — it's just scaring away the real ones."
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April 18, 2026: Is It a Spark Problem, or a You Problem?
An anonymous man posted to the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group this week and the thread exploded into 135 comments. He had been dating a woman for over a year. She is kind, faithful, deeply in love with him, and by his own description, pretty. They are engaged. The
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WWCC Part 2: You Know Why You Can't Commit. Now What?
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series A Practical Guide for the FA, DA, and the People Who Love Them This is Part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 covers the three attachment styles underneath FOMO, why the apps make everything worse, and what the research says
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WWCC Part 1: Who Is Actually Left on the Apps, and Why It Matters More Than You Think
Why We Can't Choose — The Commitment Series I want to tell you something that took me an embarrassingly long time to understand about myself. When a relationship started getting real, really real, I would feel a familiar pull. Not toward the door exactly. More like toward the mountains.
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April 5, 2026: So He Wants to Go Dutch. Is That the Real Problem?
A man in the LDS Dating - Midsingles Facebook group posted something last week that generated 339 comments and 138 reactions. The post itself was reasonable enough. He noticed that men in the current dating market seem reluctant to ask women out, wondered if the cost of dating was part
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April 3, 2026: Is Your Dealbreaker Actually a Dealbreaker — or Just Fear with a Bumper Sticker?
A post in the LDS Dating — Midsingles Facebook group earlier this month asked a simple question: "Can we, or should we, pursue relationships with those who have opposing political or religious beliefs?" 39 people reacted. 348 people commented. That ratio tells you something. When a post gets 10
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Get a Prenup on Your 3rd Date
How a Facebook Comment War About Prenups Led to the Best Conversation I've Ever Had About Love Stay with me. Claire* (*not her real name) and I had ended things — or tried to. The kind of ending that doesn't quite end, where you've agreed